More Jiu Jitsu.

december 22nd, 2017

i love jiu jitsu. i started practicing in February, not long after President Dmp threatened to declare martial law in Chicago. Jiu jitsu has put me in the best shape of my life. It's also led to spiritual development.

Venn diagram: activities for people who are lazy, activities for people in incredible physical shape, and in the overlap, jiu jitsu and rock climbing

Venn diagram: activities for people who are lazy, activities for people in incredible physical shape, and in the overlap, jiu jitsu and rock climbing

The dojo in Lakeview is a learning environment unlike any other in my experience. Coach Mack and Coach Stefan push students every minute to be better, be stronger — but without encouraging hierarchy or calling out weaknesses, and with a yearslong patience for the process. When i took Tae Kwan Do as a kid we'd go up a belt level every couple weeks. In jiu jitsu, ascending from white belt to blue belt might take three or four years.

The way women are treated in class especially stands out, in that: it's not a thing. And i am not accustomed to that! At first it was very strange to grapple with men, to choke and straddle and be choked by and straddled by men, often men much bigger and stronger than i am. It's no longer something strange. It's no longer something i fear.

i'm lucky; in my non‑jiu jitsu life no one's ever tried to physically overpower me. But i've always wondered, how would i hold up in a physical struggle with the average dude?

The answer is: i would not hold up well! The average dude could take me down easily ... this year. Next year, though.

caption: sparring with Brendan | picture: erica has Brendan in side control, Brendan says, 'g0ddam you're heavier than you look!''

pictured erica has Brendan in side control
caption sparring with Brendan, “g0ddam you're heavier than you look!”

i'm denser and stronger than average for my size, which can lead to surprise and advantage in sparring. i also make jokes. If my opponent laughs then that yields an opening and i can go for a submission, usually a guillotine choke. Laugh, then guillotine: that's my signature move.

Thus humor protects my physical body.

Most of the jiu jitsu classes are mixed rank. Experienced blue and purple belts will handicap themselves against me, not in a patronizing way, but more like playing Go with a stone handicap so that every match can be interesting. It'll be, like, letting me pull off a throw so that i can practice technique. Or when i get an imperfect arm bar, encouraging form so that it leads to submission.

It's very generous and non‑adversarial. i'm not used to that!

Eduardo and Josh grapple while erica, Andreas, and Coach Stefan look on | Coach Stefan: 'What are you guys doing? You're just holding each other!' Andreas: 'I'm just here to make friends.''

pictured Eduardo and Josh grapple while erica, Andrea, and Coach Stefan look on
caption Coach Stefan: “What are you guys doing? You're not fighting, you're just holding each other!”
Andreas: “I'm just here to make friends.”

Last night there were two new guys in class: brothers, mid‑20s, both about six feet tall and 200 lbs. i sparred with brother Phil and i say now unto you without ego, i say this dryly and objectively, i kicked his ass. It was incredibly satisfying both in seeing how far i've come since February and also just in itself. Come on, big guy. Let's dance.

The first two rounds with Brother Phil he pushed me backwards, which let me wrap my legs around his neck and put him in a triangle. Thissa triangle:

photo of jiu jitsu triangle in a competitive match | image courtesy Wikimedia

image courtesy Wikipedia

Coach Mack has told me, “your leg is stronger than his arm. So fight him upside down.” i've seen some of the blue and purple belt women flip over and attack with their powerful legs, grabbing and choking like giant squid. i am becoming them.

The third time with Phil he hesitated before reaching out to push me again.

“We can just do it all over,” i said.

“I know ... now I'm scared,” said Brother Phil. We rolled a bit and i got him into side control and put his left arm into americana, instant submission.

The fourth round i could feel his energy toggle toward aggressive, his socialization to not hurt girls worn down. That led to his fourth time in my triangle and the end of our sparring.

Afterward Phil lay face down on the mat, recuperating. Coach Mack asked, “what did you do?”

Phil lying prostrate, Coach Mack asks, 'what did you do?' erica answers, 'he kept putting himself in my triangle! i had no choice!'

pictured Phil lies prostrate in the background, Coach Mack talks with erica in the foreground

i said, “he kept putting himself in my triangle! i had no choice!”

It wouldn't take many cues from Coach Mack or Coach Stefan to turn the environment toxic. Like to stand over Phil and say, “beaten by a girl, huh?” Or to discourage men and women from sparring. “You don't want to get hurt, do you honey?” But there's none of that shit.

The Coaches would say, yeah of course there's none of that shit. Jiu jitsu is an equalizer. That's what's made them believers. But there are plenty of environments where sex and gender shouldn't matter, and they do, places wet with a steady stream of little soul‑rotting comments and morale disintegrates. So i don't take the equal environment of the dojo for granted. i treasure it.

i'll tell you now about the times i've cried in jiu jitsu
The first time was maybe in March or April sparring with a fellow inexperienced dude, and he put me in a windpipe choke that was unexpectedly brutal. i coughed two guttural and involuntary coughs. “Are you ok?” he asked. i said i was fine. i finished the match. Then i went behind the trash cans and had a little kid cry, the ragged breath sobbing kind where you can't stop yourself or draw smooth breath. i felt raw fear. i assessed whether i could pull myself together enough to come back to the mat to bow at the end of class. Nope. i turned around to put on my coat and Coach Mack saw me.

“Erica what's wrong,” he said, with Dadly Truth Serum.

“i got choked real bad, and i'm freaking out,” i said.

“Better to freak out here than in a street fight,” Coach said. Coach Mack brings up “street fights” a lot. There's a zero percent chance that i'll ever be in a street fight. i replace the street fight scenario with “he has you alone in a room.”

“Who did it? Want me to choke him out?” Coach asked. i said no, it was an accident. Then i went home and cried, then the next week i came back to class and Coach taught us What to Do When You're Choked — how to anticipate it, how to escape it, how to turn it to your advantage. i no longer fear it. Yet another fear shed like a bad old scab.

The second time i cried in jiu jitsu was my first night in Coach Stefan's class. i was working with Beth, one of the excellent purple belts who fights inverted. We were drilling Knee on Belly, which is exactly what it sounds like, and Beth said, “you can put your knee up higher too,” and she put her weight on my solar plexus, and i started crying. Not from pain. It was another fear cry. Altho this time i didn't need to hide behind the garbage can.

Beth told me she's asthmatic and so she used to panic if her face was covered in a match. And Coach Stefan came over to tell me that i'm a “straight warrior, and I would love to have you in my class.”

Even in forfeit, in tears, to be recognized as a fighter. i love jiu jitsu.

Because Seven Eight Star Wars.

december 20th, 2017

Sweet Vlad and i went to see the new Star Wars movie. Here are all the spoiler‑laden tweets i restrained myself from tweeting:

i am in the theater in costume and no one here knows what a porg is and i made Vlad come early with me so that the fans i presumed were here could get photo ops but the children are frightened of me i have miscalculated 7:23 PM - Dec 19 2017

tentative isolated "whoos" for the big opening text crawl, confirmation, i have indeed miscalculated the fandom here 7:31 PM - Dec 19 2017

REBEL SPACE BATTLE Poe's strategy is "suicide mission" sure that's a tactic 7:34 PM - Dec 19 2017

the bomber concept is interesting except that the bombers are distressingly vulnerable spacecraft. like: the Rebels are trying to play their submarines like jet fighters 7:45 PM - Dec 19 2017

... what i'm saying is: i'm better at war strategy than Poe Dameron, a bad sign for the Rebellion 7:46 PM - Dec 19 2017

this movie is very very silly 7:59 PM - Dec 19 2017

breast aliens on Iceland sure why not 8:02 PM - Dec 19 2017

... ok but why not have an alien covered in WANGS?
this movie doesn't have the GUTS 8:02 PM - Dec 19 2017

Rey: "train me"

Luke: "I'm a bad teacher, I came here to die"

Rey: "well, you're alive and very irritating. So you've effed that up too." 8:10 PM - Dec 19 2017

Leia Mary Poppinsing herself back to the ship, i wish that the Force were still HARD for her to use. that'd also explain why she didn't try to save anyone else 8:17 PM - Dec 19 2017

the chain of command is dead or in a coma, leaving 38th rank Head of PR and Marketing Laura Dern 8:23 PM - Dec 19 2017

Dern Holdo and Poe on the bridge: "you're impulsive, hot-headed ... you're the last thing I need right now"

CLOCK WIPE they're making out in a closet 8:24 PM - Dec 19 2017

Finn and Rose Tico sneaking off and no one notices, this Rebellion is looser with headcount than the deli where i used to work 8:29 PM - Dec 19 2017

this movie is like, there's an alert on the bridge that BEEPS when Finn and Rose's shuttle leaves the bay, Poe just COUGHS real loud on top of it, he covers the blinking light with his butt and smiles so pretty at Holdo

that's what this movie is like 8:34 PM - Dec 19 2017

Snoke's dancing red guards against a dropcloth lit with red gels, very 1990s hip hop video, i love it 8:36 PM - Dec 19 2017

"would you please put a towel on?"

this is definitely the FUNNIEST Star Wars 8:44 PM - Dec 19 2017

ok Holdo is fine as is, but i would love love love if she were Patton in lipstick and heels, a marvelous strategist, a keen military mind

all the leadership here seems to have risen to C-level management by virtue of their supervisors dying 8:45 PM - Dec 19 2017

i watched this deleted scene from A New Hope, particularly notable because there's a woman who speaks more lines than all non-Leia female characters combined for the rest of the trilogy
YouTube | Luke Watches a Space Battle 8:45 PM - Dec 19 2017

... anyway in that scene Luke fawns over Biggs Darklighter, Tatouine homeboy back from "the academy"

... so somewhere in canon there are Rebels with formal military strategy education 8:46 PM - Dec 19 2017

... like i kindof appreciate that this movie isn't sweating strategy or clever, isn't stressing depth. but maybe we could have just little of that you know. just a leetle 8:47 PM - Dec 19 2017

i don't understand this low-speed space chase

UNSOLICITED SCRIPT DOCTORING same scene, but inside a solar storm or particle cloud that prevents Hux from heading off the Rebels or encircling them, some kind of classically effective military tactic that he's whiffing on rn 8:59 PM - Dec 19 2017

... like it's not just the Rebels, EVERYBODY's failing their way up around this galaxy 8:59 PM - Dec 19 2017

Dern Holdo's surprise strategy is ... suicide mission, sure that's a tactic 9:10 PM - Dec 19 2017

Snoke: "Kylo is fully on the Dark Side, you'll never redeem him!"

Kylo: "The thing is, I am a very lonely boy" 9:45 PM - Dec 19 2017

Poe's surprise strategy with the salt skiffs is ... suicide mission, yes my man, why mess with what works?? 10:13 PM - Dec 19 2017

i adore Luke's Holographic Force projection, absolutely lovely, very fresh :) 10:21 PM - Dec 19 2017

well, three hours have elapsed and this movie is finally over. i had a lot of fun!

the title The Last Jedi is a lie, there are tons of Jedi around — Rey, Leia, Kylo is gonna come around, Rey and Kylo's kids soon, all the Force ghosts 10:44 PM - Dec 19 2017

it's a very SILLY movie 10:45 PM - Dec 19 2017

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